No. It doesn’t. It makes you a smart parent – who is wisely saving their money for stuff like education or awesome Lord of the Rings Lego kits (oh wait..that’s what my husband is buying himself ).
We don’t actually have kids, but I visited with a friend on the weekend who recently had her first child. I was telling her how most of the toys I have for my niece at my house are actually hand me downs from another niece, or were bought at a garage sale. Yes, I’m a cheap aunt. I help chip in for shoes on occasion and put money towards her education. Much better use than wasting it on new toys.
Anyways, she seemed greatly relieved to hear this and fessed up that she’d bought her daughter clothes at Value Village. And then asked if this made her a bad parent! She’s finding out the hard way that motherhood comes with a lot of judgement, and another friend of hers told her she’d never let her kids wear second hand stuff.
WOW! I just think that’s absolutely crazy. I know I grew up wearing hand me downs. Heck, if any of my friends were the same size as me, I’d take hand me downs now. But I’m taller than all of them, so that’s never been an option.
I guess this is one of the reasons that people are so much in debt now. My friend felt badly that they could afford to buy her new clothes – but bought them at Value Village. I pointed out that she was being smart – her daughter would outgrow them quickly, and it was silly to buy them new. I pointed out my niece wears hand me downs (really nice ones, mind you – my brother has some well off friends!) and my parents buy her things at Once Upon a Child.
I don’t know. I guess I just grew up with hand me downs and thought they were normal. Guess I’m just out of the loop.
How do you guys feel about this? Do you buy second hand clothes for yourself or your kids?